In the journey toward higher consciousness, you learn to work on yourself and your issues by processing. What are
You Have Issues
An issue is a vague term that can signify nearly anything that pushes your buttons. Things like this:
- I can’t stop obsessing about…
- Conspiracy theories are true (or not, depending on your stance.)
- I hate my job, life, school…
- Climate change is real (or is not – depending on your stance.)
- I get angry when a driver cuts me off in traffic.
- Politics drives me crazy.
- Why do I argue so much with my spouse?
- What has my self-talk sounded like over the last month?
- Why do I always seem to get sick around Thanksgiving?
Years ago, processing took a long time, or maybe I couldn’t really tell when processing was finished.
I just knew that after thinking about some issue there would be a natural resting place or resolution where it felt like I was finished with the issue for the time being.
That’s not very helpful, is it?
What Is Processing?
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Essentially, you review the code inside of you and -through processing-replace that with new code.
Processing helps you find a sense of balance for the time being.
Of course, life and consciousness work in spiral patterns, so the issue you’ve worked to resolve today will most assuredly come into your life in the future.
Having processed the issue, though, you are better able to deal with the experience. Processing helps you become calmer and wiser human.
The Practice of Processing
That’s all fine, of course, but what does processing look like in practice? Let’s look at my real-life issue: I hate being told what I can and can’t do.
Like really really don’t like it. Anytime I’m told I’m not allowed to do something, my automatic reaction is WHY? What’s so wrong with? That’s not fair. It’s not right.
It’s a feeling in my gut, in my solar-plexus. This is the location of the solar plexus chakra, the seat of manifesting our personal power in the world.
In Sanskrit, the word for the solar plexus chakra is Manipura, and it’s represented by the element of fire. This area of the body is about being grounded in your power, setting the direction of your life, and holding your opinions and beliefs.
So when I am told I can’t do something, I interpret those words -whatever they are, and however they’re delivered- as a personal attack.
Fire and Anger
The words hit like a sucker punch to my gut. I feel helpless. I feel victimized. The wind is out of my sails and I am the Ancient Mariner, adrift with no wind, no water, and the albatross of anger around my neck.
And boy, am I angry.
It’s a self-righteous, firey, burning anger. It’s the kind of anger that makes me want to scream, “how could you!” in situations where such an emotional outburst would do nothing to move the situation forward, and would – no doubt – cause more damage anyway.
Using the techniques of polarity, triangles, and squares, I can move through these feelings and better recognize them the next time they appear in my life.
The Polarity Technique
I’m going to take a little longer to write out exactly how to do this first technique. And – just for fun and you’re
(I’m kind of a little angry just thinking about that kind of a situation, so clearly, there’s more processing for me to do with that.)
- Pick an experience
- Write about the experience
- Pick out important words and phrases
- Make a list of those important
- Find the opposites
- Offer it up with a prayer
- Wait for grace.
After you’ve picked the experience to explore, write it down. Get detailed. .
Writing it out has the ability to take the sting and bite out of the experience; it releases the tension and allows your mind to look at the experience from many different angles.
An abbreviated version might look like this:
I can’t believe that insensitive tyrant stoops to such petty nonsense. It doesn’t do anybody any good if you insist on something that makes no damned sense, and then don’t stick around to help with the implementation. It’s so frustrating to have someone (who thinks they know how this should work) criticize just this one tiny thing, but then never bother to praise the 10,000 other things I do right every.single.day. I know I should calm down about this, and I know that this happens all the time, but seriously? I am so angry. I’m frustrated. There’s not a damn thing I can do to change this situation and I feel so powerless.
After you write that experience down, you may need to take a break before proceeding.
Find the important words and phrases that are repeated over and over in the writing. What’s the theme that comes to you from this experience?
Make a list of those important words and phrases. Go over and over this list and make it as comprehensive as you can. You might even use Thesaurus.com and find a whole host of other words that relate to the list of words you’re focusing on.
Or maybe you’re not as word geeky as I am – lol.
What are some of the
- can’t believe
- stoop to
- petty nonsense
- makes no damned sense
- stick around to help
- it’s so frustrating
- think they know how it should work
criticisethis tiny thing
- never bother to praise
- I should calm down
In The Marriage of Spirit, Leslie Temple-Thurston writes that each word “…represents a vibratory frequency, which fills in the picture much more clearly. The more filled-in the picture is, the bigger the breakthrough you are going to have, and the more tangible the shift will be.”
The next step is to find the opposites for each word on your list.
- can’t believe —– I believe
- insensitive —- sensitive
- tyrant —- benevolent leader
- stoop to —- raise up
- petty nonsense —- wisdom and understanding
- makes no damned sense —- makes sense
- never helps —- helpful
- frustrating —- inspire
- think they know how it should work —- practical experience
- criticize this tiny thing —- compliment
- no praise —- compliment or praise
- I should calm down —- It’s OK to be agitated
- Angry —- content
- Frustrated —- fulfilled
- Powerless —- capable and competent
When you’ve come up with the best list you can, and you’ve thoroughly looked at all of the opposites (really use that Thesaurus website and explore the different ways to express the words) — then you offer it up in prayer.
How you offer this prayer is entirely up to you. It doesn’t matter if you do this formally with a fancy ritual, or if you dance naked in the moonlight around a roaring campfire. Howl at the moon, burn the writing and the list, speak to the goddesses, or have a chat with Jesus, Buddha, Mohammed, nature spirits, and your ancestors all at the same time. Totally up to you.
The important part is that you are sincere in your offering. Really put your heart and soul into the prayer. Aim for something like this:
Dear spirit, guides and ancestors, and all that gather to hear my words, my heart is heavy. I am weary of feeling so unbalanced. Please take these patterns in me and clear them. Do this so I may feel more lighthearted and am better able to be the best that I can be while I am here walking on this earth. I give thanks knowing that this will be done. Namaste. So be it. Amen.adapted from p. 166 of The Marriage of Spirit
The final step in working with polarities is simply to wait (Temple-Thurston calls it waiting for grace) and writes:
When grace comes in, you may feel a shift in your physical body or in your subtle body. Or maybe you will have some emotions pass through. Or perhaps you will suddenly start getting insights. Or that night you might have significant dreams…”
Eventually, as you work at this, practicing polarities becomes natural. You’ll be criticized and feel angry, but think, “I am angry at these words, and I am also calm and competent. These words are not about me…” or something similar.
The Triangle Technique
Once you understand how to work with opposites, processing with triangles and squares is easier to understand. Here are the basic steps for triangles:
- Choose a polarity
- Write it on the baseline points of a triangle
- Find the ascended balance and write it at the apex of the triangle
- Offer it up in prayer, and ask for the ascended state to be instituted instead of the polarity.
- Wait for grace.
The triangles work with what my primary meditation teacher might call The Law of Threes: for every pair of
- power and powerlessness resolve upward to surrender and humility.
- Loss and gain resolve as neutrality.
- Control and loss of control might resolve as detachment, surrender, and neutrality.
- Victim and tyrant resolve as selflessness and forgiveness.
Temple-Thurston includes a list of ascended balance states — ie, the resolution of that tension between two opposites. Here are some:
The Squares Technique
Squares are yet another way to work with issues that just never seem to go away.
- Choose a polarity
- Draw a large square. Divide the square into four smaller squares. In the upper two squares write: fear of (polarity 1) and desire to (polarity 1.) In the lower two squares write fear of polarity 2 and desire to polarity 2. See the image below for what it should look like.
- Apply data — fill in the squares (and the edges around the squares and however much paper you need) with every possible way in which you know that desire or fear.
- Offer the square up to spirit.
- Wait for grace.
Temple-Thurston offers plenty of examples to explore in your life:
- Dependent and Independent
- Inferior and Superior
- Approval and Disapproval
- Lack and Abundance
- Victim and Tyrant
- Manipulative and Straight Forward
Try It Out
These three techniques have so many applications, and I’ve only begun to explore them. Truth be told, I’ve only glanced at the rest of the book because these techniques blew me away.
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